Today I am going to give some encouragement to those that homeschool mostly on their own. I do homeschooling and most of the parenting on my own in our house. I am totally not complaining because it is mostly my choice and that is what works for our family. My husband works long hours sometimes and does quite a bit of traveling so we see him the most on the weekends. Then on the weekends we need to make sure he gets time for him so work doesn’t burn him out, I mean, we play all week long while he is at work, it’s only fair. My husband loves our kids but he doesn’t really interact with them much until they can pretty much hold a small conversation or play a physical game. He will spend a few minutes with the little ones at a time but then moves on to something else, he doesn’t have the patience to sit and watch a little one play. My husband has gotten better with each kid though, but I still have trouble getting out of the house without the little one. Whenever I see the pictures saying that dads are another parent not a babysitter I have to giggle a little. In our house dad would be considered a babysitter since he is hardly ever home alone with the kids. Our system may not work for a lot of other families, but it’s what works for us. I can homeschool and spend my day how I want at the moment and he can do what he wants with most of his free time.
It can be hard, draining, tiresome, and lonely sometimes being the parent that does most of the interaction with your kids. Yet on the flip side it is very rewarding to be able to spend everyday with these little people and watching them grow. Parker and I just the other day were sitting in Ayden’s room watching him play and you could just see his mind working, I love those moments. It is those moments we need to cherish when we are having exhausting days when it seems like nothing is going right. When those tough and exhausting times come I take a step back, forget about the chores that need to be done and find something fun to do. If something is driving me crazy then it means I am doing too much or expecting too much from myself or the kids. There are times where I start getting aggravated at the kids and I step away and figure out what I need to change to make things go smoother.
You also need to take time for yourself, no matter how much you have on your plate. Time for yourself could be as little as 5 minutes or as long as you want. Sometimes you just need to ignore the kids and the noise and stare at Facebook on your phone for a little while. Don’t make yourself feel bad if it happens. Get your littles in a secure and safe area, get your bigger kids on something that will keep them busy, and do something that you enjoy doing. We are always doing something that someone else enjoys, take a little time to do something you enjoy. My me time is usually spent writing a blog, playing a game on my phone or iPad, or watching an adult show. Don’t forget, your chores can always be done another time, your sanity is more important!
I’m writing this today because my husband has been gone for a week. He was only supposed to be gone 5 days then it just kept getting pushed further a day at time. He should be home tomorrow for a night then gone again for what should only be one night. If I relied on him to take care of the kids on the weekends or after a normal work day this travel stuff would drive me crazy. Yet instead it is sort of like a mini vacation because I don’t have to make sure the house is as clean or cook as many dinners. There is more time for me and more time to play with the kids.
Take a step into the life of Auer (pronounced like our) homeschool. We are a family that likes to learn through life experiences, you can call us unschoolers. We would like to share our experiences so maybe we can make a difference in the lives of others.
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